4 Tips for Single Ponies
It can be frustrating when you're looking for a play partner, and I won't lie: it requires effort and it is rarely easy, but it is possible. Here are 4 tips to help you in the interim:
- Play with Yourself
Sounds really dirty, I know (and it is!), but not having a trainer does not mean that you can't practice. I know that it's not as fun when you're holding your own reins, but when you practice being a pony by yourself, you can show off your new moves to potential trainers. This is perfect for breaking in those new hoof boots - wear them around house.
- Go to Events
This was the hardest one for me (mostly because I can be lazy, and it's easier for me to not do something than it is for me go out of my way and do it), but it really does pay off. Go to local events; go to national or international events if possible. The Folsom Street Fair® (next fair is Sunday, September 23, 2012 from 11 a.m. to 6 p.m) is where I was able to meet others in the scene. You can go by yourself, or you can ask people who you know (e.g. from Fetlife) if they want to lead a pony for an hour or two. People always love ponies and critters, so even if you go by yourself, you sure to get lots of attention, and you'll meet others in the scene.
- Frequent Fetlife
There is a huge community on Fetlife, and I know of a couple ponies who found trainers that way. Write up a little profile about yourself (a real PIA I know, but if you have nothing about yourself, how are others supposed to learn anything about you). Join the "Pony Play" group there and interact with others: try asking specific questions, and don't be afraid to offer your opinion. The Human Pony Registry is a great option for ponies looking for trainers. Also, Equus Eroticus is another place that helps ponies and trainers connect.
- Have some Tack
I know I'll get some flak for this, but I do think you should have some basic tack (homemade is perfectly fine) available. Also, if you have your own, you know it fits and is comfortable and hygienic. You don't have to have fancy tack (a rope bit/bridle works well), but try to have something you can bring with you to events.
I can't offer any profound advice. All I can say is don't give up, and do go to events - you really will meet people. And remember, everyone loves a pony.